There is this man who has 2 daughters, and a son, 3
granddaughters, 1 grandson, and expecting another grandson. They are all beautiful, and will capture your heart. You would say this man is blessed. His oldest daughter who is married and has a little boy, has mixed feeling about him as a father, and a man for her son to look up to. She was the protector, the mother hen of the 3 kids since she was the oldest of the 3. He doesn't think like most men, always thinking that people are out to get him, and
sabotage anything he tries in life to
succeed. He chose to live a life of sin, cheating, drinking, drugs, neglect, abuse, and not protecting his daughter from his very own friend. She has love for her father, but not the love a
daugther should. Being torn all her life in wanting his approval and love, but rebelling and standing up against him. She learned what kind of a person, parent, friend, etc...she wanted to be through his life.
She went threw a divorce at the same time her parents were and had to once again be the rock for them, even though she was crushed and needed her parents. From the time she was 3 she was outspoken and would tell you you were wrong.
Now that she is in her late 30's with a life of her own. Her father has been living on the street for the last 10+ yrs. Won't keep a steady job, because he doesn't want to pay child support, and the underline problem that she thinks he is mentally ill. That would be the only answer to why he does and thinks they warped way he does. He can still demand things of her like when she was little, and she turns to knots. He called her and told her that he moved to where there is no running water, electricity, food, not to mention he has no job or way to support himself. He has had a few strokes in the last 5 yrs, and on medication. He was living in the mission, but he isn't a person who follows rules. He makes them and expects people to follow. He doesn't know that all the hateful names that he calls the women of the family, and just the mental torment that they go through when he just does something irrational.
The women want to protect and nurture, not to just let him be living in the middle of no where and trying to survive. The question she asked, "how will you take a bath, wash clothes, drink water? What will you do about taking your medicine, or what happens if you have a stroke?" He replied, "well I will just die! I don't want to live like this I am tired of not having a home!"
She got upset and said, "you are choosing your life this way. You have only you to blame, you don't have to live like this. You have children and
grand kids who need you to be the strong man of our family!"
He got so angry and yelled, "the so called
Christians have done all this to me, they took my son away, they made me quit my job, divorce my wife, and forced me to live as a homeless man!" His daughter was fed up, "no one but you can change your life. You blame others for what you have chose. No one took your son, your wife...you chose to hit your wife and you created your world when you did that. You had a great paying job, but you quit it since people were after you. You chose everything and not everyone believes like you, you think you are a prophet, and know the Bible, but you have twisted it, and no one wants to hear what you have to say."
He went on to say, "the one person who so called loved me, gave me no chance a
reconciling!"
She exploded, "I DON'T THINK ANY WOMAN WOULD AFTER BEING HIT AGAIN AND AGAIN, AND THE YRS OF MENTAL ABUSE! YOU CHOSE IT, YOU CREATED IT, YOU PUT YOUR KIDS IN HARMS WAY AND DIDN'T PROTECT THEM, YOU LET ME SEE THINGS HORRIBLE THINGS THAT NO CHILD SHOULD HAVE SEEN, THOSE CHRISTIAN PEOPLE SHOULD HAVE TAKEN YOUR KIDS AWAY, AND PROVIDED US FOOD, CLOTHING, SHELTER, AND AN ABUNDANT AMOUNT OF LOVE!!"
That was the end of the of the phone call. She
busted into tears and ran into the room to her husband. She explained everything to him, and that she feels obligated to make sure he's
ok and has food and water. The first thing she wants to do is just leave him alone, and cut all ties. She wasn't raised that way..her grand parents the Christians, taught her to love, and still help others who are ill, and to just have faith and prayer.
She turns to God to help her with her struggle.
